Goddesses' Stories of Their Gatherings
With Special Thanks to Each Goddess Who Shared Her Story
|Goddesses Going To Seed
was just around the corner, and this year I just didn't have the energy to get into my
usual gardening frenzy. My best friend decided that we'd throw a garden party and get four
of our friends to help.
For invitations we sent each of them a plain white card inviting them to "Go To
Seed With A Bunch of Goddesses" in my garden on an upcoming Saturday, to wear
something suitable for "getting down and dirty".
The two of us decided which goddess each one "decidedly was NOT!"
and told everyone that they had been assigned to "be" that goddess and to
bring a small plant or cutting suitable for planting outdoors that would honor their
The goddesses must have been smiling on us because the weather turned out to be
perfect. We created a Goddess Circle by lining up folding chairs and various garden tools
and waited for our guests to arrive. We'd prepared a hat for each "goddess
guest" to wear-- they were old baseball caps decorated with fake flowers, seed
packets, and cheap jewely we found at the thrift shoft.
Each friend was instructed upon arrival that they had to behave just like their
assigned goddess would have while we all got a Goddess Garden planted. Each
"goddess" wrote her goddess name on a ribbon of "her colors" and
attached it to a bamboo stake that whe stuck in the soil next to her plant.
We got the work done...at least some of us did! Our goddess Venus refused to ruin her
manicure and watched the rest of us slaving away while she gave herself a pedicure!
And Persephone, in contrast to her usual take-charge Athena self, kept
"disappearing" for periods of time.
It was actually harder than you'd think to "be" the goddess that you aren't,
but a lot of laughs as we tried.
Plus, when the blooms finally arrived and the Goddess Garden was in all its glory, we
got together to have a Sunday brunch around the garden, take some marvelous photos for our
albums, and gather each of us a bouquet. It was a garden that we'll always
Karen (decidedly "Not Aphrodite")
|Bless this House
A group of us got
together to give a house-warming party for one of our dear friends. She was recently
divorced and moving into a condo. It was not a naturally "happy" time for
her, because she was leaving the house that had been her home for over 20 years and where
she'd raised both her children, who were now in college.
We wanted to let her know that we would be there for her and to do something that would
make her new house feel like something "special", like a place where she could
begin a rich, satisying "new" life.
It was a complete surprize when we showed up on her doorstep the day after her move,
each of us wearing a construction paper crown with our "goddess name" inscribed
on it with glitter. Hers read "Great Goddess" and was festooned with
rhinestones and curly ribbon.
Each of us brought a gift from our goddess, something small for the house that would
remind her of a goddess. Hera brought an African violet, Artemis a little crystal star to
dangle in the kitchen window, and Hestia a large candle. As she unwrapped each one, we
told her a little bit about the goddess and something about her that reminded us of that
We spent the evening helping her unpack and hang her pictures. We hung the little
wooden sign we gave her that said "Never Forget That A Goddess Lives Here!" on
the bathroom wall next to the mirror so that she would be reminded of it everyday.
|When The Veil Between the Worlds Is Thin
For the last five
years a group of women have been meeting together one evening near Halloween. Three of us
are close friends, and each of us invites another friend or acquaintance to join us. This
means everyone isn't well-known to everyone else who's there and that the group keeps
growing a bit each year.
Everyone brings a dish to share and the three of us who are the "core group"
provide the mulled apple cider, beer, and marshmallows for roasting. Sitting outside
around an old iron tub filled with burning sticks and small logs that we've gathered, we
snack and relax, laughing and chatting away as the sun begins to set.
As it starts to get dark, the candles are lit (we save our half-burned candles
throughout the year just for this occasion). We all take pencils and slips of paper and
write a note (or a few) telling something we would like to have "taken away from
us" during the next year--things like "my jealousy", "worrying about
my daughter", or "any cells remaining from my breast cancer".
We wrap the notes and a sprig of sage with raffia and toss them into the fire. As the
smoke rises we ask those in the "otherworld" to help us release these things
that hold us back. If anyone feels like it, they can tell others about their request but
there is no pressure to do so.
Each year's gathering has been different, special in its own way. But all of them have
been beautiful events in which we have all felt closer to others, cared for, and
understood as women.
|Goddesses of the Silver Screen
Simplest idea for a goddess
party yet! Eight of us do this a couple of times a year and it's great fun. We usually get
together about 3:30 on a Saturday afternoon at one of our houses (usually the home one of
us who's single or whose husband is out of town, making it easy for it to be
We each bring one of our favorite movies on video or DVD, with the only rule being that
we have to be able to introduce the video we brought as "about,or by, a
goddess". We're not real "picky" about how that's defined, and have
even gone so far as to "make up a goddess" if need be.
Pizzas & popcorn are the usual "food", and we just watch videos (showing
in two different rooms simultaneously) and visit, usually until about midnight.
Several of us who took a women's studies course
together at the university a few years ago vowed to get together every month for a
"Girls Night Out". We range in age from 20 to 59. We meet the first Friday night
of every month, usually at an area restaurant but sometimes at one of our homes. The
evenings are filled with girl-talk, light and laughter.
A couple of years ago, after we all enjoyed the well-thumbed copy of the first
"Sweet Potato Queens" book, we started wearing tiaras for our evenings out.
It was great fun and led to meeting some interesting people who would stop by the
table to say "If you don't mind me asking, why are you wearing those?"
Our rule about answering was this: any one of us could answer, truthfully or not, and
the others were honor-bound to back up the story. "It makes us feel special."
"So that we get to meet interesting people like you who come up to ask
us that." "So we get our drinks for free (not true, altho' once we did!)
or "We're raising funds for the Gnome Liberation Society", or "Because she
just had a baby"--pointing to me, the 59 yr. old, of course!
I forget the reason why we first started "doing" goddesses as well (probably
because we wanted to go back to the same restaurant but not be spotted in the same outfits
two months in a row!), but spring had just arrived and someone had the idea that we should
all wear wreaths of flowers in our hair to celebrate Persephone's return. It was a huge
success...we garnered even more attention than usual and spent much of the evening in
lively conversation and banter with our "admirers".
Now we go with goddess headgear at least twice a year. The astonishing thing is this:
we are normally somewhat quiet, unassuming women who don't go out of our way to call
attention to ourselves. Two of us you would even call "very shy". But put
us in a tiara, call us a goddess, and 'Whoa! Better watch out!" We're having a
|It's Not Finals Week!
I took your Goddess Quiz and my
friends were so impressed with my report that they all wanted to get their own! So we
decided to have a goddess party in my dorm room and went online and ordered everyone a
report and printed them all off.
Then we put all the reports in a stack (without the persons name attached) and read
them while we ate. We ttried to guess whose report each was. We had a contest to see who
could get the most correct, and the rest of us would chip in and pay for the winner's
Guess what? Nobody won. The reports were so "right on" that we all agreed and
guessed all of them correctly. So we decided to spend the $15 on the pizza instead!
We've had a lot of fun teasing each other (kindly, of course) about some of the stuff
in the reports. Like it saying "tends to forget the simple details" about one of
us -- she locked herself out of her car twice last week and we're still ribbing her about
Thanks again for the great website!
Goddess Come In All Ages.
Just wanted to give you a report on the Goddess Party that my daughter
(who had taken the Goddess Quiz at the website) gave me for my 60th birthday which was
held at a family reunion.
We had a marvelous time - complete with goddess costumes (made by one
sister), head pieces (made by each guest at the party), musical instruments, an original
goddess processional song sung from the beach cottage in NC to the beach where the group
divided into 2 units and collaborated to find items on the beach to present to the
The most fun was telling the stories about why we chose a particular
goddess that represented where we were at this point in our lives. There were about 15 of
us, from my 96 yr. old mom to a college student and a bride-to-be. We made a video and
laugh harder every time we look at it.
Such a marvelous celebration. Thanks for the web inspiration!
P.S. Everyone that I have shared the party with was so excited about having their own
Goddess Party! Maybe you could add another segment to your website of Goddess Party ideas.
|In Vino, Veritas
My family owns a vacation home in the
Pocono Mountains, and for several years a group of my dearest friends and I take over the
house during the Pennsylvania Wine Festival.
We came from four states, bringing presents of medallions, t-shirts,
bumperstickers, cards and more. We gather together, enjoy the wine, share our
laughter and sorrows and our advice, and draw strength from the different traits that each
This year, our theme was Celebration of the Goddesses. Before the event we had
email discussions to select our special names. We chose individual names that we felt
represented the wonderful wisdom or special "gift" of feminine strength that
each one of us brings to the group.
Since I am the central point through which everyone has met over the 20+ years, I was
named Goddess of Friendship. Our youngest friend is in her early 20's, balancing
full-time school, full-time work and a full-time social schedule, so she was christened
Goddess of Energy. Another friend has taught us to always spoil ourselves, that we are
allowed to do so, and she was voted Goddess of Fine Things.
Likewise for our Goddess of Laughter (even though she tells terrible jokes!), Goddess
of Nature (teaching us that we are one with nature both environment and our animal
friends), Goddess of Secrets (learning to protect our inner self) and Goddess of
Perseverance (for never giving up no matter how tough it gets.)
I think that our gathering will now be known as the Goddess weekend, and the gifts of
Friendship, Laughter, Energy, Perseverance, Secrets, Nature and Fine Things are what get
us through each year. What a wonderful celebration of true and lasting friendship!
Our Goddess ritual still spills over into our every day lives. When
any of us need energy, laughter, friendship or any other strength, we bond together via
email, visits, and phone calls to get each other through whatever challenges we face or
joys we share. We never thought we'd be trendy too!
Darlene, Goddess of Friendship