Spring Cleaning for the Heart and Soul
your home and open up your love life
By Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway
Is your love life at a standstill?
Are you feeling kind of stuck in the winter blahs
and lack-of-relationship blues? Does life in general
look a little messy? Do things seem out of balance
and off-centered? If so, it may be time for a spring
cleaning of the heart and soul!
I am convinced -- and I have seen -- that we
can pray and Feng Shui our way out of a love rut …
and into a great relationship.
It may seem wacky to think that a pile of old
magazines or relics from relationships past that are
collecting dust can keep new love at bay, but
clutter and memorabilia can impact your love life.
Why not utilize the stir of springtime to clean
house in your life, on all levels, and get yourself
even more tuned-up for love! A good, soulful
spring-cleaning will bring you a fresh start for the
season of love.
In order to truly be ready to engage in a good
relationship, you have to be committed to bringing
order into your life on all levels --
physical, psychic, emotional, financial, and
spiritual. It is often a process of gently
releasing, letting go, identifying and giving up
that which stands in the way of letting love in.
This includes unsuitable relationships and
unsuitable ties to old flames (you know the ones!).
Let yourself mourn what you must leave behind -- an
important process-- and then you can move on.
There is a very specific spiritual law that states
that “nature abhors a vacuum.” Get rid of something
and something new can come in. All of the worlds
religions have specific ways to release the old --
from body, mind and spirit. And in Feng Shui,
releasing clutter is the number one step to
transforming your life. And there is a reason for
this: If your life is too cluttered or filled up
with “stuff,” if your house is messy or your mind is
disorganized, if you are not honoring your body or
your spirit, it very hard to feel connected to your
own divine nature and therefore it is difficult to
create a life of your choosing. It’s harder yet to
magnetize a partner who has it together and can
brings a lot to a relationship.
This is the time to at least start to
rethink your romantic game plan and slowly work your
way toward transforming -- or releasing -- the
relationships that are not your soul mate and
the things in your life that do not represent the
kind of relationship you would like to be in.
bet for a fresh start is to make symbolic gestures
in the physical realm. Clearing the decks of
disarray will help you create a healthy foundation
for your life. And then, a healthy foundation in
your life will help you create the space for your
love to come in. These things take time. Be gentle
with yourself but start somewhere!
Try some of these “Life Cleaning”
one drawer … Then a closet.
Next, a whole room. Rampage through your physical
space, one step at a time, as a symbolic gesture of
cleaning up your life and making room for love. Take
a big black garbage bag -- or 10! --and dump things.
Give anything you don’t need any more to the Garbage
Goddess or to charity. Or sell some stuff on e-bay
(but if you are never going to get around to that,
give it way!).
Let go of
memorabilia from past or failed relationships.
This includes anything that ties you inappropriately
to the past, or to a love affair that is long over.
Naturally you want to save anything that is valuable
or sacred, but pack it up and place it in storage --
at least for now. You should not be looking at
pictures of your old loves on the mantle, or stuff
that reminds you of that person, while trying to get
ready for the new. Keeping a photo of your ex on
display energetically keeps him or her around your
cleaning up your life a fun and rejuvenating ritual.
music, such as “I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta
Hair,” and dance around as your ditch the old the
make room for the new. Music and dance is like a
moving prayer that helps generate good feelings and
Jot down thoughts, items, relationships, “things”
you know are in the way of your soul mate success.
List things you choose to release or transform for
the highest good. When ready to let things go, or
at least reach the next level of willingness to let
go, rip up your list and flush the pieces,
symbolically releasing the things that have kept
life messy, out of balance and at a standstill. Say
a prayer for the highest good of all involved.
© Copyright 2006 Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway All
Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is a
non-denominational wedding officiant and
relationship coach known for her warm, loving and
creative approach to blessing couples in love and
helping people find true love. She’s
Wedding Goddess (www.WeddingGoddess.com)
and Find Your Spiritual Soul Mate (www.selfhealingexpressions.com)
She will lead
Goddesses of Love: A Ceremonial Journey to Your
Perfect Soul Mate,
a workshop for women at Kripalu in Lennox, MA, on
June 9-11, 2006. Register at