Spring Cleaning for the Heart and Soul

Freshen your home and open up your love life


 By Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway


Is your love life at a standstill? Are you feeling kind of stuck in the winter blahs and lack-of-relationship blues? Does life in general look a little messy? Do things seem out of balance and off-centered? If so, it may be time for a spring cleaning of the heart and soul!


I am convinced -- and I have seen -- that we can pray and Feng Shui our way out of a love rut  … and into a great relationship.


It may seem wacky to think that a pile of old magazines or relics from relationships past that are collecting dust can keep new love at bay, but clutter and memorabilia can impact your love life. Why not utilize the stir of springtime to clean house in your life, on all levels, and get yourself even more tuned-up for love! A good, soulful spring-cleaning will bring you a fresh start for the season of love.


In order to truly be ready to engage in a good relationship, you have to be committed to bringing order into your life on all levels -- physical, psychic, emotional, financial, and spiritual. It is often a process of gently releasing, letting go, identifying and giving up that which stands in the way of letting love in. This includes unsuitable relationships and unsuitable ties to old flames (you know the ones!). Let yourself mourn what you must leave behind -- an important process-- and then you can move on.


There is a very specific spiritual law that states that “nature abhors a vacuum.” Get rid of something and something new can come in. All of the worlds religions have specific ways to release the old -- from body, mind and spirit. And in Feng Shui, releasing clutter is the number one step to transforming your life. And there is a reason for this:  If your life is too cluttered or filled up with “stuff,” if your house is messy or your mind is disorganized, if you are not honoring your body or your spirit, it very hard to feel connected to your own divine nature and therefore it is difficult to create a life of your choosing. It’s harder yet to magnetize a partner who has it together and can brings a lot to a relationship.


This is the time to at least start to rethink your romantic game plan and slowly work your way toward transforming -- or releasing -- the relationships that are not your soul mate and the things in your life that do not represent the kind of relationship you would like to be in.


The best bet for a fresh start is to make symbolic gestures in the physical realm. Clearing the decks of disarray will help you create a healthy foundation for your life. And then, a healthy foundation in your life will help you create the space for your love to come in. These things take time. Be gentle with yourself but start somewhere!


Try some of these “Life Cleaning” tips:


Start with one drawer … Then a closet. Next, a whole room. Rampage through your physical space, one step at a time, as a symbolic gesture of cleaning up your life and making room for love. Take a big black garbage bag -- or 10! --and dump things. Give anything you don’t need any more to the Garbage Goddess or to charity.  Or sell some stuff on e-bay (but if you are never going to get around to that, give it way!).


Let go of memorabilia from past or failed relationships. This includes anything that ties you inappropriately to the past, or to a love affair that is long over. Naturally you want to save anything that is valuable or sacred, but pack it up and place it in storage -- at least for now. You should not be looking at pictures of your old loves on the mantle, or stuff that reminds you of that person, while trying to get ready for the new. Keeping a photo of your ex on display energetically keeps him or her around your house!


Make cleaning up your life a fun and rejuvenating ritual. Play music, such as “I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta Hair,” and dance around as your ditch the old the make room for the new. Music and dance is like a moving prayer that helps generate good feelings and hope.


Write an elimination list. Jot down thoughts, items, relationships, “things” you know are in the way of your soul mate success. List things you choose to release or transform for the highest good.  When ready to let things go, or at least reach the next level of willingness to let go, rip up your list and flush the pieces, symbolically releasing the things that have kept life messy, out of balance and at a standstill. Say a prayer for the highest good of all involved.


© Copyright 2006 Reverend Laurie Sue Brockway  All Rights Reserved.



Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway is a non-denominational wedding officiant and relationship coach known for her warm, loving and creative approach to blessing couples in love and helping people find true love. She’s author of Wedding Goddess (www.WeddingGoddess.com) and Find Your Spiritual Soul Mate (www.selfhealingexpressions.com)   She will lead Invoking The Goddesses of Love:  A Ceremonial Journey to Your Perfect Soul Mate, a workshop for women at Kripalu in Lennox, MA, on June 9-11, 2006. Register at www.kripalu.org .


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